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Mark
04-22-2006, 10:42 PM
Hello,

My name is Mark. I am 44 years old and I live in Lompoc, CA with
my wife of 14 years, Judy. We homeschool our three children: Karalynn, Devin, and Mylon. We attend a Nazarene church where we also lead a home study group on Wednesdays and help out on Sundays with the children's ministry. I am an electrical engineer employed at Vandenberg AFB where I evaluate the various sensor systems supporting missile launches. We moved to California five years ago, partly to escape the congestion of Colorado Springs, CO (hey that ought to raise some eyebrows) and also to be closer to family. We are now enjoying the beautiful (but expensive) central coast of California and an 11 minute commute to work.

My exodus from mainstream evangelicalism began in 2001 - after the Y2K fiasco. (ok so that doesn't fit with attending a Nazarene church does it - If anyone asks, we are not members and I don't admit to being evangelical. Forgive me for being a don't ask, don't tell PU.) I was pretty PO'd with the way the evangelicals were handling (helping to create) the hysteria. So I decided to dig in to the Bible prophecies and come up with my own answers. I tried to push my pre-conceived ideas aside (that's impossible of course) and start out with a fresh slate. So I went through the whole bible and cut-and-pasted all the eschatological passages I could find
into a single WORD document, and then I read it from end to end. My first thought was, "Why does the Bible end before the final climax of the story occurs?" Wouldn't the destruction of the Jewish temple in 70 AD have seemed to have been a big deal to at least somebody - anybody?
I vaguely recalled that most scholars put John's death somewhere near 90 AD, and I wondered, "So why doesn't he or anyone else ever even mention it?" Nothing? What's up with that? That would have been an extremely important event and to simply leave it out seemed to be very strange indeed - especially for John if he were writing the Revelation afterward. (Can anyone say "smoking gun?")

I also remembered that someone had told me that the Catholics believed that Nero was the antichrist - which at that time I thought was absurd. But in my little end-times summary one little detail seemed to scream for my attention - what was far off for the prophet Daniel was near, at the door, in
Revelation. How could this be?

Colorado Springs was pretty much innundated with 'prophetic' ministry during that period, and their exercise in completely missing the boat on Y2K motivated me to pursue the eschatology question. Don't get me wrong, they had some good things to say and some good ideas, but they shouldn't have tried to pass themselves off as teachers.

By that time I had already been distancing myself from my evangelical peers by asking a simple question, "How much do you have to know about Jesus in order to go to Heaven?" I had also been asking God questions like, "Where does grace end? Where is the line that puts
you beyond grace once you step over it?" I felt that God's answer to me was, "I dare you to find it!"

All around me people were saying that judgment was coming on America for our apostasy and sin. We deserved it. It was predicted. We were in the end times. But this didn't square with what I understood of the love of Jesus and the Father. All I saw was the elder son accusing the prodigal. For me, God was not mad - at anyone. They're talking whipping and all I see is a gold ring.

So I consulted the Universal Orb of Knowledge and typed something like 'AD 70 Nero.' And somewhere among the links I found the Preterist Archives. I read and read and felt that someone had been reading my mind. There was actually a word to describe the absurd conclusion I was coming to. In February of 2001 I joined the Preterist Club on Yahoo and jumped into the conversation - agreeing and disagreeing without intimidation or fear of offending God. Sure, I made mistakes. I spewed a few flames - said a few things I really didn't believe just to get a rise out of people.

In May of '01 we made the move to California. I told my wife that I really didn't care what kind of Church we went to as long as they loved Jesus and didn't try to control people. We were charismatics and had seen the power of the Holy Spirit in our lives, miraculous healings, the working
of his gifts in our lives. But my questions - and answers - were already making her nervous. I suggested to our pastor that if he really wanted to attract sinners to the church why not ask sinners to play on the worship team. That would be pretty cutting edge - a gay person on the worship team. He was actually open to it. It was cool.

Then we moved. I actually began to sense an urgency to exit Colo.Spgs. ASAP. Economically, that was right-on. If we had waited a few months we would have never been able to afford to move. Housing in CA was still in our range - but not for long. We found a life-giving Nazarene church. I thought they were supposed to be legalistic - but hey - California was supposed to have all the traffic and weirdos, and Colorado was supposed to be a mountain paradise. Things aint always so.

After the move 911 happened. Some well respected leaders began postulating that we may alredy have entered the 7-year tribulation period. Of one thing I was certain: they were wrong. They didn't have a clue about what they were talking about. I might also be wrong, but at least I didn't
have to feel ashamed of it. Everybody else was wrong too. What does it matter whether your ERROR is orthodox or unorthodox?

I was getting Charisma magazine and received the issue announcing Carlton Pearson's fall from grace for heretical teaching on Universal Reconciliation. I went to his website and read. He made a lot of sense. Somewhere along the way I stumbled onto www.tentmaker.org. That
answered more questions. I used the internet to compare arguments on Calvinism and Arminianism.

I didn't have a lot of experience with Calvinism till I entered the Preterist conversation. There was a group espousing reformed eschatology. It didn't sit well with me because they seemed to be really legalistic about the proper way to 'do' church. Then they would throw in something about
election and such. (Obviously, some people were into this preterist thing to sell books and build empires. I saw enough of that in Colorado Springs.) So I delved into that question for a while. I have now concluded that the best way to understand grace is to let the Calvinists and the Arminians debate each other. I was on jury duty in November. The lawyers should have traded sides - that's how bad they were. I say just let each side of eternal torment keep talking. They'll shoot themselves in the foot - dig their own graves.

Is God really so foolish as to paint Himself into a corner with no option but to torture billions and billions of people forever and ever and ever. He is obviously more creative than that. One thing the evangelicals did say that resonated was, "God can do anything but fail."

We go to a good church. Of course they believe you need to say that prayer and get baptized to make sure you don't go to Hell. They see a world that will get worse until Jesus comes. Of course that bugs me, but I'm not going to 'fix' it. Maybe they think we are strange because none of our children are baptized yet. We are not members but we lead a bible study, we like to worship God and pray for people. Our kids actually love Jesus. We like to really dig in and see what the Bible says. And we want to minister to those outside (and inside) the church who don't have a vital relationship with Christ. We don't go out of our way to share our eschatology with them or tell them they are wrong about Hell, but we have had some close calls.
I'm up front with the pastor or anyone who asks, but I don't feel the need to make issues of these 'non-essentials'. Maybe there isn't a lot in their statement of faith we agree with, but I imagine a lot of members don't even know enough about what it says to either agree or disagree. They're dabbling with the 'emerging church' conversation right now. It's only a matter of time - things are changing. I'm content to focus on God's goodness until something more God-oriented emerges. We are learning how to navigate the waters to contribute something positive to our evangelical friends while at the same time providing a little toxic relief to the outsiders who are being told the world is coming to an end and they are going to hell. We are learning to be Jesus to the neighbor kid who said the prayer to ask Jesus into his heart but still prays to 'Buddha' because he's known him longer,
and our Jewish friends are tired of being told they are going to Hell if they
don't accept Jesus.

It's just nice to know there are others out there like us whom we can spill our guts to when we feel overwhelmed - people who understand how lonely this road can be at times. We are not asking God to take us out. Just give us his comfort, his presence - and a few encouraging friends. If you need a label you can tentatively put me down as a 98% Chalcedon Compliant Full Preterist Charismatic Universal Reconciliationist. You can put Judy down as a Scared Confused Lover of Jesus with a very strange husband. You can put our kids down - for Bed - please.

Barry
04-23-2006, 07:06 AM
Welcome home Mark.
Barry

backtothefuture
04-23-2006, 09:01 AM
Mark,
That was a wonderful way to start my day. You are not alone on your journey. The people here have been great and are so willing to answer any questions I have. And I still do have many. Welcome:biggrinbounce:
Nancy

Amie
04-23-2006, 11:16 AM
Mark,

It's great to meet you, Judy and family :). What a journey you've had! Welcome.

Amie

ozark
04-23-2006, 11:44 AM
I had also been asking God questions like, "Where does grace end? Where is the line that puts you beyond grace once you step over it?" I felt that God's answer to me was, "I dare you to find it!"



Bravo Mark! :clap2:

Welcome to Talk-grace.

Lauri
04-23-2006, 11:53 AM
Welcome Mark!
I feel a kinship to you as my husband and I are ex-Nazarenes. My husbands brother (who introduced us to the preterist view) is a Nazarene pastor in Kansas. We met another Nazarene pastor at the conference last year. I also believe another one on this forum (Paige) came out of that denomination. Maybe the Nazarenes with catch up with the CofC in the preterist circles. I say we are ex-Nazarene because there isn't a Nazarene church were we live now and we tried to help plant one when we got a little too zelous with our new beliefs and not with a loving spirit tried to "convert" them to our new beliefs (which at that time were preterist but not universalist) and we were asked to shut up or leave so we left. We still have wonderful fellowship with other friends from Nazarene churchs we have been members of in the past. Yes the Nazarenes are very legalistic but they are generally a very sincere and loving bunch.

You seem to have a very healthy attitude. I think you are wise to have the don't ask don't tell policy. That is the policy my husband and I have adopted at the new fellowship we are involved with, the Vineyard, which is still very evangelical but a bit more relaxed with the "rules". We attend a small group bible study and help with the food shelf. Now that we don't feel a need to be right or "convert" everyone to our way of thinking we can just have fellowship and love everyone where they are. I'm not saying that sometimes we don't have to bite our tongues during our bible studies, but we are able to interject grace ideas now and then without provoking an aurgument.

Thanks for sharing your journey. We look forward to hearing more from you in the future!

Lauri

the_prophet_whiteboy
04-23-2006, 12:08 PM
Hi Mark,
interesting story to say the least. I am curious about this statments though.

Is God really so foolish as to paint Himself into a corner with no option but to torture billions and billions of people forever and ever and ever. He is obviously more creative than that. One thing the evangelicals did say that resonated was, "God can do anything but fail."

You came to a conclusion based on what you feel is foolish or non foolish. The idea that people "are tortured" forever you didnt like. SO therefore you call it foolish ?

Because God does things we dont like or want to fathom, does not make Him foolish. Sorry if this has come across blint/rude. I just find it odd, that when one doesnt like the outcome of scripture, that we have to find a way to make it suit our own wants.

John

Amie
04-23-2006, 08:44 PM
Hi Mark,
interesting story to say the least. I am curious about this statments though.

Is God really so foolish as to paint Himself into a corner with no option but to torture billions and billions of people forever and ever and ever. He is obviously more creative than that. One thing the evangelicals did say that resonated was, "God can do anything but fail."

You came to a conclusion based on what you feel is foolish or non foolish. The idea that people "are tortured" forever you didnt like. SO therefore you call it foolish ?

Mark did say how he felt, and I think he put it clearly. This remark is antagonistic in nature, and not something we encourage here.


Because God does things we dont like or want to fathom, does not make Him foolish. Sorry if this has come across blint/rude. I just find it odd, that when one doesnt like the outcome of scripture, that we have to find a way to make it suit our own wants.

Mark doesn't believe God sends people to hell, he was clear on that as well. Since he doesn't believe it, he doesn't see God as foolish.

I think that it would be safe to assume that because you believe God does send people to hell, that he would not accuse you of believing that God is foolish. I can see how such a misunderstanding could strike a sore spot.

Your comment also presumes that Mark, and those of us who share his view here, did not come to our view via Scripture (there are many threads here that demonstrate that we do). I hope we can work toward not jumping to conclusions and understanding that we are all free to have and share our own views.



Amie

Paige
04-24-2006, 09:36 AM
Wow Mark,

Miss a weekend around here and you miss bunches! Welcome aboard! I am also a former Nazarene. The last church we were in was a Nazarene church. I was able to share my views openly with the Pastor there. He searched for himself and agrees (although I'm not sure where he stands today on the hell issue). He has moved on to another churhc, and we are now involved in a home fellowship.

I think that there is going to be a growing movement within the Naz. churhc towards this understanding, so just hold on.

We also homeschool our kids! We have four...Greg (20 and we're done, whew!), Jocelyn (16), Andrew (almost 14), and Candace (11).

I'm really glad you're here, and so sorry it has taken me so long to say "hello".

Paige

christyG
04-24-2006, 11:06 AM
Just wanted to add my welcome Mark!

This is a wonderful place! Hope you stick around and share some more with us.

Christy

kevinbeck
04-24-2006, 12:37 PM
Mark,
Good to meet ya!

So you moved from Colo Spgs 5 years ago to avoid the congestion? It is now officially 5 years more congested. We moved here a little more than a year ago because it was a local call to reach God. :)

What you say about questioning things resonates with me. That's precissely what started me down my journey. In my experience, the only people who fear questions are the folks who think they have all of the answers.

Also, your comments about God not being able to fail are profound (IMHO). I mean, what about 1Cor 15 where death is defeated and God "taunts" death, "O death where is your sting? Where is your victory?" That seems like a pretty decisive victory to me.

I'm sure you'll have a great experience here at TG. I've known many of these folks for some time (probably Barry or Davo the longest). ANd with the exception of Amie May they're all great, kind, loving people. :) Luv ya Amie.

Blessings,
Kevin

Mark
04-24-2006, 11:06 PM
Kevin,

I failed to mention 4-5 years at New Life Church when it was 'only'
500-1000 people. Actually, I used to listen to Ted Haggard on the radio
on my way to work before New Life started. I convinced my wife to
hike Pikes Peak with me BEFORE we were married. You've got to try it.
Find someone who knows the back route through the Crags too. It's awesome. I am not sure if any of the Vineyards in Colo.Spgs. are still going. Since leaving I have found out that there is a preterist organization in the area but I forgot the name. What kind of fellowship are you involved in?

Mark

kevinbeck
04-25-2006, 09:10 AM
Mark,
New Life is huge now--as you know, and Pastor Ted gets regualr calls from Washington.

I'm hiking the Peak in about 2 months. It'll be my first time, but I've been training for a while. I'me very excited about the challenge. I'll let you know how it goes.

There is at least one Vineyard in town (that I know of). I don't know anything about it--size, pastor, etc.

My life is pretty full. So I don't attend any church regularly. I'm not opposed to it, it just is not whare I am right now. I'm not aware of any preterist organizations in the area, but that doesn't mean they're not here. How do you lke CA? I have a friend in town who just moved here from there. He loves both places.

Blessings,
Kevin

Amie
04-25-2006, 01:26 PM
Don't be so modest Kevin :). Kevin is the "big guy" ;) at "Presence Ministries". They have the fulfilled view, but are not preterist (correct me if I'm wrong Kevin).

Their site is presence.tv (http://www.presence.tv/cms/index.php)...

Amie

Barry
04-25-2006, 01:54 PM
Mark, we put up with Kevin here. It takes a lot of patience on our part but we seem to manage.
We are trying to teach him something about the fulfilled view. It's not easy believe me!
We know that someday we will succeed and then we can convert the rest of those Presence Ministries folk. [tongue in cheek]

:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

Barry
PS, we tease the one's we love!
Kevin's a great guy.
http://talk-grace.com/showthread.php?t=166

kevinbeck
04-26-2006, 02:29 PM
Barry's right. It is not easy for him to teach anything. ;)

Luv ya, dude.

Barry
04-26-2006, 02:37 PM
:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

Tam
05-11-2006, 02:31 PM
Hi all,

My name is Tami. Found out about you thru Rhonda. Let's see, strong Conservative Baptist background. As an adult moved to many churches searching for the grace I heard about but never experienced. That was an important part of my journey cuz I found it all to come up short for me. Had a grace revelation from God. Left organized religion, still stubbornly clinging to some of the "basics" of my faith tho. Now I'm thinking and believing things I never dreamed possible. Total miracle.

I haven't read a whole lot yet, but so far I've really enjoyed the posts already and am finding a whole lot to relate to.

Tami