Girlfriends

[backtothefuture]

Hi,
I was just wondering if you gals have a special Girl friend that you confide in and are just really like sisters.
I have had one for 15 years and now she is being very distant and I can't figure out what is going on. She has gone through a bad divorce 4 years ago and I have walked with her through that and we have helped the family for over 10 years.
I know she has said over and over that I should get divorced also. But I feel and have shared with her how grace has really healed our marriage and I am looking forward to 25 good years now.
The truth is, our marriage is way so much better since I started coming here and looking at myself and letting my husband be who he is. I can't tell you how that has freed me of so much pain. And freed me from so much guilt and shame. I still have a ways to go, but I can tell I am a different person and so is this marriage.
So, any ideas about my friend. I do love her, but feel really left out of her life now. Do you suppose some things are just meant to be for a season?
Anyone else dealt with this type of scenario?
Thanks,
Nancy

[Amie]

Nancy,

Are you comfortable enough with her to ask her what is going on? I could make a number of educated speculations, but I'm not sure that would help a thing.

I'm glad that your marriage is getting better because of the grace multiplying in your heart. Sometimes I still struggle with it. I love my husband like no one else, and he can try my nerves sometimes too! He is so much more graceful to me actually.

That said though, my marriage gets tons better the more that grace enters my life also! Isn't it awesome!?

Amie

[Paige]

Do you suppose some things are just meant to be for a season?

When I read what you wrote about the situation, that was my gut feeling. Perhaps she is needing some time and space to adjust, and part of her adjustment might be acceptance that you are content to remain married.

A long while back, a friend of mine told me that it was just too hard to be around someone who had a good marriage after her divorce. It was painful for her...I think I can understand that and see how it would be so.

Paige

[backtothefuture]

Hi,
I think we just both need some space. I have known I think in my heart for almost a year that things were changing. She believes I am in a bad relationship, and I believe I am in one that is changing as the grace grows in the grace place.
So maybe it does bother her that I stuck it out. 15 years ago when we met in church the odds would have been that I would have been divorced and not her. She has a very well known ex father in law who has written some books and comes from a very fundamental back ground. So maybe to her this just does not look fair in some way.
Anyway, thanks for the input.
Nancy